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Lovecrack Chronicles, Questions, comments &
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Dear Jenny and Red,
I am currently involved with a man whom I love deeply, but we have some
serious issues in our relationship. I know he loves me, he tells me that
constantly, but I keep catching him in lies. I have suspicions that he has
cheated on me as well. How can I feel so betrayed sometimes and so in love at
other times? I don’t know what to do? I am tired of my own bi-polar behavior
and I think I am starting to make myself crazy. I don’t want to let go of the
relationship but I can’t keep going on like this. Got any suggestions?
Thanks, Bi-polar Beth
Dear a.k.a. BP Beth,
First of all, love is about respect. If he respects you, he won’t lie to you.
If he doesn’t care enough to tell you the truth, what makes you think he will
respect you in other “areas”? Any solid relationship is built on respect and
truth, since you are not receiving either, it is no wonder you are feeling
betrayed. That is a normal reaction to have. Staying in a relationship of this
sort will only take you further down a road that you don’t want to travel. As
far as having suspicions, listen to your gut! Nine times out of ten, it is
right. Let your heart and your gut guide you. Sometimes they whisper and we
turn up the volume to help us ignore them. Sit quietly and listen. You owe it
to yourself. I think you really know what you need to do. Make a void and fill
it up with something more positive. Get rid of the person telling the lies, and
inadvertently I think your “bi-polar” behavior will disappear along with him.
Feel the void for a while and then fill yourself back up with something
positive, and healthy. Once you allow some soul room in which to do this, it
will be so much easier to love yourself more than you love the lies. We
promise!!
Love, Jenny and Red
Dear Jenny and Red,
I have recently broken up with a man that I thought I would spend the rest
of my life with. Much to my surprise I discovered that he has a very addictive
personality and I was just another one of his addictions. I desperately want to
reach out and help him but I don’t know how or what to do. I feel like I gave
him everything just to find out that I could be as easily thrown out as
yesterday’s trash. What do I do now? I miss him so much!
Please Help! Samantha
Dear Samantha,
People who have addictive personalities can only change when he/she wants to
make a change. His addictions and addictive behavior will surly leave him empty
in the end unless HE DECIDES he wants to change. What would be even sadder is
if you let it leave you empty in the end as well. It is very admirable to want
to help him, but consider the cost for you. It could be a situation where he
“gets better” and no longer needs you any more. It could be a situation where
he could turn in to an emotional vampire and suck all the good energy you have
right out of you. Simply put, no matter how much we believe we can help a
person change, we can’t. Change must come from within and if one doesn’t want
to change, then one won’t. To feel like you have been thrown out feels
terrible, but I promise you it will feel worse to continue to give of yourself
when someone doesn’t want you or your help. The way I see it, you just came out
of a strange emotional lockdown. You have been set free to live life and be
appreciated, not depleted and used. What you need to do now is BE FREE girl and
live life for you. You have to do that for yourself!
Love, love, Jenny and Red
Dear Jenny and Red,
I am obsessed with my mess. I am in a very unhealthy relationship, but I
can’t seem to drag myself out of it. I live for my boyfriend. He does not live
for me though. I want to be his world. I want him to love me like no other. I
need him but often times he just isn’t there for me. I just can’t seem to let
go. My heart is in a vice-grip and the life is getting squeezed out of me.
Sherry
Dear Sherry,
We’ll tell you what you need! You need our book! You are addicted to an
unhealthy relationship and we understand, because we have both been there. We
have developed a rehab for the broken hearted. Our book will provide you with
the necessary tools to love yourself again and lose this addiction to toxic love
once and for all. It is a manual on finding yourself and embracing your
goodness. We will teach you to let go of the addiction and start focusing on
developing your own’s soul glow. It requires a little pen to paper work, but we
promise, you will come out on top this time. You will bury your addictive
behaviors and you will find the person you want to be! No more Lovecrack, time
to get on the self love track!
Love, love Jenny and Red
Dear Jenny and Red,
My x-boyfriend is dating someone else and still calls me every day. He says he
loves me and I make him smile and that he is not in love with her. But he is
still dating her anyway. My heart feels like I can’t move on because it is
stuck in love with him. What do I do?
Stuck in the mud
Dear Stuck,
Well shug, you’ve got yourself in bit of a predicament. Look at the big
picture. Your “Lovecrack” wants to keep you as a side dish, not his entrée.
Knowing that it’s there makes him feel full. Just because it is on his plate,
doesn’t mean he has to eat it. Hopefully he doesn’t live with his mother and
doesn’t have to honor his membership in the clean plate club. Give yourself a
chance to find out what you want. Is it really scraps of time and leftover
attention served cold? I think not. You are his ego food. He keeps you there
as comfort but usually he is shopping at the market for something new and
improved. With that said, new and improve you! Start with a 30 day break from
communicating with him in any form. You will experience withdraw. You will not
like the crunchy feeling of an unsatisfied craving. This is called detox and it
is only temporary. Turn your energy inward and turn yourself around with a
heart wise diet which includes exercising your mind, body and spirit. Stop
eating his crumbs. Do something to make you smile for a change. And if you
want to know the truth, you are not really stuck, you just got a good change of
luck!
Love, love Jenny and Red
Dear Jenny and Red,
I have been involved with this guy for quite some time. We have incredible
chemistry. The sex is unbelievable. Sometimes I overcompensate for his other
misgivings, such as omissions of truth and or blatant lies. I just can’t seem
to give him up though. When I am out with my friends and having a good time, I
can’t resist calling him. This usually will end up in a fiery night spent
together with morning after regrets. I love him and I know I need to give him
up, but it is just too good. Help me, please!
Dear HMP,
Well girl, according to scientist, 9 out of 10 agree you suffer from the curse
of the big beaker. This is a chemistry class you need to skip. The Bunsen
burners are on full blast and you are going to get burned, only not with
anything chemical, probably something contagious. And those good times are not
going to be worth all the ointment/antibiotics/herbal remedies that all the
pharmaceutical companies in the land can offer you. It is hard to get that in
perspective sometimes, but mind over matter will prevail if you want it to. Let
the next girl be the one who takes a trip to the pharmacy, not you. You must
relinquish your cell phone in to the custody of a friend when in these
situations. Use the buddy system, it’s a proven method of preventing danger.
Love, love Jenny and Red
I thought he was kind.
I thought he was cool.
How could I have been such a fool?
Feeding a habit, I thought I couldn’t break.
Finding the strength I knew it would take.
Bursting free from his hold,
Promises broken, lies so bold.
He was my drug,
My sweet toxic love,
My heart it did shatter
My soul felt sold.
One gracious day I awoke,
Found the courage and I spoke,
My truths so freely
I could hardly believe it was me.
On that day my life changed track,
No more pain, no more Lovecrack!
Today I am free of the love confusion that weighed on me,
I’m so grateful to start brand new.
And that is what you can do too.
Be brave, be strong and see it through,
And that girlfriend, is up to you.
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